111 Tips to Become an Interesting Conversationalist

Do you want to be considered an interesting conversationalist and always leave a pleasant impression on others? The ability to talk will help you in relationships, career, friendship and life in general. How to become a good conversationalist in any situation and with any person?

The modern world is a world of communication. Relationships, friendships, careers, money and other values come to us through communication. Do you know how to communicate with people or have difficulties, are shy and do not know what to talk about?

How to start a conversation with strangers, establish contacts with others and have a conversation with people? How to be an interesting conversationalist in social networks? How to conduct a conversation by phone or correspondence through instant messengers? Here are 111 tips from smart books on communication that will help you to conduct conversations and conversations.

The ability to communicate with people will allow you to pass for an interesting interlocutor and person. And this gives many advantages for life. Sociable people often succeed in all areas, while the silent remain on the sidelines of life.

He Who Sedulously Attends, Pointedly Asks, Calmly Speaks, Coolly Answers, And Ceases When He Has No More To Say, Is In Possession Of Some Of The Best Requisites Of Man.

Johann Caspar Lavater

How to learn to be an interesting conversationalist? 111 best tips from professionals.

  1. When talking, think about whether the topic is interesting to the interlocutor. Talk only about what interests or excites the interlocutor.
  2. Smile. Look friendly, positive, and open-minded to make contact faster.
  3. The golden rule of morality says: “Treat other people the way you want to be treated.” But it is better to do according to the platinum rule: “Treat other people the way they want to be treated.”
  4. Use the method of active listening: listen carefully, nod, assent, agree, help with the necessary phrases and thoughts.
  5. More often call an interlocutor by name, because everyone is pleased to hear their name. Therefore, always remember or write down the names of new acquaintances.
  6. Take care of your appearance and image. Everyone is pleased to talk with a neat and stylish man, smelling of delicious perfume.
  7. Do not be a bore, a whiner, a complainer or a boring person. Everyone runs from such as from fire.
  8. Give compliments, notice the positive features and strengths of the interlocutor. This will cause a sympathetic response.
  9. In a conversation, try to understand the nature and mood of the interlocutor at the current moment.
  10. Try to show yourself from the best and presentable side to like it faster.
  11. Find common interests with the interlocutor in order to find common ground: hobbies, hobbies or dreams.
  12. Work on diction, clarity and beauty of speech.
  13. Treat all people with respect. This makes a great impression.
  14. Do not have a formal conversation about the weather or anything empty. The interlocutor immediately stops listening and is removed. He gets bored.
  15. Try not to be annoying in the conversation and not to hang up excess noodles on the ears of the interlocutor.
  16. State the essence in a simple and accessible language, so that others do not have the thought that you are smart.
  17. Let your interlocutor speak more than you.
  18. Be an optimist, not a pessimist in conversation. It causes positive emotions.
  19. Communication should not be a monologue. Limit your story and suggestions so that the other person can speak out too.
  20. Do not be shy to ask questions to the interlocutor to start a conversation and make contact.
  21. Be prepared for a question at any level and try to answer them, despite the difficulties.
  22. Do not argue aggressively and categorically. Even disagreements can be resolved peacefully and calmly. An argument is a cautious search for compromise.
  23. Use the answers of the interlocutor in order to continue the conversation on a topic of interest to him.
  24. Avoid gossiping and talking about other people badly. Otherwise, they will assume that you dissolve gossip behind your backs.
  25. Never interrupt the interlocutor to tell your case or story.
  26. Focus on the interlocutor when you are talking with him, and not be distracted by other things.
  27. Explain to the interlocutor that he does not understand, using familiar objects, phenomena and comparisons.
  28. Do not make fun of people, their thoughts and desires. This is very disrespectful. Laugh with them when they have fun.
  29. Work on your voice. A low, velvety and chesty voice is more pleasant to hear than a shrill or uneven one.
  30. An important ability of the interlocutor is not only to say what is needed, but also to keep silent.
  31. Be considerate of the interlocutor and respect his feelings.
  32. Observe the non-verbal signals of the interlocutor. Does a person look at his watch, get a phone, or try to sneak out? Time to stop talking.
  33. Avoid special terms when talking to people in another profession.
  34. Lead an active life to be an interesting conversationalist who has something to tell. Try to be a man of the world, global and large-scale, with cosmopolitan views. Such people are attracted.
  35. Do not open too much, especially in front of a stranger.
  36. Try to keep abreast of the latest developments in the world to keep up the conversation.
  37. It is not necessary, in a dispute or confrontation, to be right.
  38. Shyness, uncertainty, and an inferiority complex interfere with the conversation.
  39. Be attentive to what the interlocutor says and remember. It’s silly to ask again.
  40. Broaden your horizons to be savvy for conversations on any topic.
  41. Do not ask too many questions, as if it were an interrogation or an interview.
  42. Do not try to touch on too many topics for conversation by jumping from one to another.
  43. Repeat the body language of the interlocutor to demonstrate your similarity.
  44. Keep in stock dozens of interesting stories that are suitable for a particular situation.
  45. The best way to win a dispute is to avoid it.
  46. Do not try to remake people, try to accept them for who they are.
  47. Read a couple of books on oratory and communication with people. Be sure to read Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
  48. Start a conversation about the latest in the world, achievements and interesting events, but do not get into the retelling of overt gossip.
  49. Try to look at things from the point of view of the interlocutor.
  50. Answer the questions is not monosyllabic. Otherwise, you will get the impression that you are not interested in the conversation, and you want to finish it faster.
  51. Do not tell anything “in secret” about other people. Such people do not cause trust and respect.
  52. Allow the interlocutor to maintain his reputation and face if he finds himself in a difficult situation.
  53. Willingly and resolutely admit that you are wrong, if it happened.
  54. Watch out of your manners to make a good impression.
  55. Create the impression that a person’s mistake is easy to correct and everything will work out.
  56. Do not use pinched postures that indicate stiffness and lack of comfortable conversation.
  57. Sometimes you can be silent together. Do not try to fill in any pause with words.
  58. Sincerely convince the interlocutor of his own significance.
  59. Present your ideas and thoughts brightly, and not boring and dejected.
  60. Do not compare the interlocutor with anyone. Each person considers himself unique and inimitable.
  1. Try not to touch on the topic of politics, religion, health and personal life.
  2. A sense of humor is the key to the success of a good conversation.
  3. Feel the pause in the conversation when the interlocutor is waiting for your comment and opinion.
  4. In a conversation, try not to brag, it looks ridiculous.
  5. Spare your speech from the words of parasites. How to recognize them? Tell some story and record it on the recorder.
  6. Suddenly do not step back from the topic of conversation, showing disrespect to the interlocutor.
  7. Help a person speak out, being interested in his opinion and desires.
  8. Improve the self-esteem of the interlocutor during the conversation.
  9. Expand your vocabulary and memorize quotes from great people.
  10. Do not avoid communicating with people and keep up the conversation. This will allow you to be more sociable and sociable.
  11. Control your emotions and facial expressions during a conversation.
  12. Tell about yourself and about the events in which you took part. This is usually interesting.
  13. Do not answer a question with a question. It annoys people.
  14. Try to avoid gross flattery. Focus more on the real merits and strengths of the interlocutor.
  15. Do not go out of your way to please the person you are talking to. It is repulsive.
  16. Respond well to other people. The interlocutor will try to match your best view and opinion.
  17. Try to express your opinion only on those topics in which you understand something.
  18. Use the word “I” less in a conversation, because this demonstrates undisguised selfishness.
  19. Each person has a unique experience. Let the person teach you something. He will like it.
  20. Practice more in conversations with people. Visit new places, start conversations with strangers.
  21. Sometimes touch people. This allows you to quickly establish friendly and warm relations. But this should be relevant.
  22. Do not demonstrate that you are in a hurry somewhere or want to quickly end the conversation. This will create the impression of a bad interlocutor and an unpleasant person.
  23. First speak of your mistakes, and then carefully criticize.
  24. Do not draw conclusions for the interlocutor, do not end his joke and do not guess the continuation of the story.
  25. Do not repeat the same phrases – this is disrespect for the interlocutor. But vary the sentences, repeating and reinforcing the idea.
  26. Try to establish emotional and spiritual reciprocity in the conversation.
  27. Do not be afraid to take the initiative in a conversation to help a shy person open up.
  28. Show respect for someone else’s point of view, and do not try to break it to the smithereens.
  29. Use self-irony in the conversation, but do not overdo it.
  30. Share your thoughts, ideas and interesting notes with people around you.
  31. Do not try to fish out personal information and what a person does not want to talk about.
  32. If a person criticizes himself and scolds, then you have to come to his aid. Refute his statements and support.
  33. Excessive manifestation of emotions can put the interlocutor in an awkward position. In a conversation, restrain yourself and your emotions.
  34. It’s great if you have your own hobbies that you can share with others.
  35. It is very important to learn how to enjoy communication. This positive mood will create the image of a good interlocutor and a pleasant person.
  36. Express your thoughts more clearly so that it’s clear what you’re talking about.
  37. Do not use hiccups in the interlocutor’s speech, this may confuse him.
  38. Ask for advice from a person in the field in which he understands. It may flatter him.
  39. Tell your interlocutor about yourself to show your openness.
  40. Do not dominate during the conversation, but let the person you are talking lead the line of conversation.
  41. Hide your weaknesses and negative sides. There are no perfect people. Show yourself in a profitable way.
  42. Do not teach others and do not criticize openly.
  43. Avoid familiarity and vulgarity in conversation.
  44. Take an example from talented speakers, speakers of lectures and leading television shows.
  45. Show sincere empathy for the interlocutor.
  46. Praise people for the smallest achievements and approve of successful steps.
  47. Keep eye contact with the interlocutor, and not with your eyes around.
  48. Try to be a true individual, not a fake, of which there are so many.
  49. Try to show charisma, smile, laugh, demonstrate gestures and emotions.
  50. People understand how we feel about them and what we feel. Treat your interlocutor warmly and friendly. Try to show frank sympathy.
  51. End the conversation on a positive note, which will leave a favorable impression.

How to learn to be an interesting conversationalist? Save all 111 communication tips and be sure to use. Be the person conversation with whom is similar to fascinating reading a good book. Then everyone will love you.

Do you know how to conduct entertaining and interesting conversations? Share tips in the comments.

Jude Delaney

Written by Jude Delaney

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