We have already talked about how to build trust relations in a couple, in this article I will talk about what may kill this trust. That is, about inappropriate behavior in a couple.
Treason (infidelity) in the form of physical deception is one of the most common reasons for destroying the relationship, because it kills the trust of the partner. But this is not the only reason. There are at least 6 more reasons that can destroy your relationship. I will talk about them and how to avoid them.
1. Affective Infidelity
Affective infidelity is just as harmful as physical infidelity. This is not about physical intimacy (treason), but emotional. Excessive communication with someone without the knowledge of the partner, the exchange of intimate details about your personal life (your or your partner), the exchange of intimate photos is one of the forms of betrayal that destroys your relationship.
2. Discussion of the relationship in your couple behind the back of your partner.
If one of the partners decides to talk about intimate and personal things (which should concern only this couple) with a third party, this can be considered a betrayal. This is equivalent to a stab in the back, which will further exacerbate the situation. The only sure way to resolve the situation is to discuss intimate problems with your partner, and not with anyone. If the situation does not solve and the help of a third part is needed, then it is better that he (as an option, the best friend of the family or a psychologist) talk with both of you.
Golden Rule: Do not discuss personal issues outside of relationships.
Self-esteem is good at certain moments, but, like everything else in life, it becomes negative as soon as you go to extremes.
Self-love should never become selfish. The love you feel for yourself should never interfere or weaken the love you feel for your other half.
In this particular case, we are talking about betrayal, when one of the two partners focuses only on their own needs and requirements. When he takes without giving anything in return, the other feels lonely and unnecessary, even if he is in a relationship.
4. “Little” and stupid lies
The line between the “divine lies” and true lies is extremely thin. And people strive for this border, without even knowing the boundaries. Therefore, it is better to never lie!
Try to turn the tide; if you find that your partner has lied to you, you would start to wonder about all the things that he did not tell you, and wonder what he is still hiding. This can create an atmosphere of mistrust and ultimately ruin the relationship.
5. Failure to support another
Two people in a pair should always support each other. Boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife – the main support in life, they must always protect each other’s interests.
If you are involved in a serious and full-fledged relationship, your partner should always support you and never allow anyone to talk badly about you. The same rule applies to you.
6. Do not play on other people’s fears
Unfortunately, today you can often meet people who do not control their behavior. They can be aggressive, short-tempered, and toxic. Such people realize themselves through the manipulation of other people. They rejoice in the vulnerabilities and anxieties of others.
They systematically indicate your mistakes, do everything to spoil your mood or well-being, indicate what you need to do and that they were right in that situation. These are just a few examples; manipulation tactics are expressed in thousands of ways and are very complex. The behavior of such person resembles that of a narcissist. The main goal of such manipulators is to show you that you cannot live without them.
I just want to emphasize that this is one of the worst forms of betrayal. The manipulator betrays the trust and love of his partner, turning his own feelings against him.